Ms. Demeanor's Vertical Etiquette

Our Dear Ms. Demeanor: Making New Yorkers more polite, one manners crisis at a time

By Lucy Cohen Blatter  | July 11, 2012 - 3:12PM

Our Ms. Demeanor column is an etiquette guide for vertical dwellers penned by BrickUnderground's very own Emily (blog) Post, Jamie Lauren Sutton.

This week's SurvivalList focuses on said advice column, for those of us New Yorkers who need a little help in the politeness category (translation: all of us). 

Perhaps unsurprisingly, many of the letters Ms. D receives revolve around neighborly nuisances -- like neighbors who chronically decorate their door, or let the dog pee in the elevator, or blast pornography or cook stinky foods. (Ms. D's form letter for misbehaving neighbors may work in several of these instances).

There are even some dicey situations involving neighbors with whom our readers are far too intimate -- like previous one-night stands, shrinks and ex-husbands.

Ms. D also advises our readers on appropriate tipping practices -- for lobby delivery, ungrateful doormen, amenity staff, formerly spoiled supers and more.

And, of course, she's dedicated plenty of ink to roommate issues, like toilet paper wars and loud sex.

Similarly, no NYC etiquette column would be complete without dissecting the rights/wrongs of dealing with bed bugs. Ms. D covers the topic both when it pertains to a babysitter with bed bugs and when you're the one with the infestation.

For these and more columns, take a look below. We hope you come out of this a more civilized New York vertical dweller as a result.

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