Dear Ms. Demeanor,
I live in a building with an outside staff that manages the gym, party room, pool, screening rooms and other amenities. Is there an expectation that the guy who swipes your card in the gym or the lifeguard gets tipped? If so, what is expected?
Dear Amy Amenity,
In this town, there is no such thing as a free screening room. Those swanky amenities don't just keep your maintenance sky high--they also mean you'll have to reach deeper in to your pockets during Tipping Season.
Keep familiar faces friendly with $10.00 gift certificates to Starbucks/Barnes and Noble/the movies. If you do not use the pool or party room, you are not obligated to tip the people who work there (but I would be happy to go in your stead and tip them after a nice long swim).
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