Dear Ms. Demeanor: Downsizing the super's tip

By Jamie Lauren Sutton | November 30, 2011 - 2:45PM

Dear Ms. Demeanor,

Last year we did a pretty big renovation and we tipped the super accordingly. This year we are glad to have the renovation and its expenses behind us, but I am worried that the super is still expecting the same hefty tip and will be put out if he doesn't get it. What is the right thing to do here?

Signed,

Alexandra Taylor Mumford

Dear ATM,

American may run on Dunkin', but New York City runs on bonuses and bonuses vary widely no matter what the folks formerly calling Zuccotti Park home may say.

A raise over the 2009 rate acknowledges that you know he has your back in times of need and is an incentive to him to stay that course.

With that in mind, I would advise you to tip 15% above 2009 with a nicely worded note, or to split the difference between the 2009 and 2010 tips.

I tip my hat to you,

Ms. Demeanor

Ms. Demeanor is channeled by a longtime Manhattan vertical dweller and real-estate voyeur who writes under the pen name Jamie Lauren Sutton. She is here to commiserate, calm and correct. Please email your quandaries to [email protected] and put "Dear Ms. Demeanor" in the subject line.

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