Dear Ms. Demeanor: Our super is retiring. What's the proper etiquette?

 

 

 

 

Dear Farewell,

 

How bittersweet! I absolutely love and applaud your instincts. The super is one of those people in the neighborhood (...in the neighborhood - sing it with me!) who can make or break city life.  

 

A gracious send-off is well-deserved for a man who does all home-related things you cannot or will not do. He is the guy you call when things go bump (or squeak) in the night, the one who unclogs a toilet or helps an ex- move out (similar job description, no?).

 

While a get-together in the lobby (for a larger building) or someone's apartment (in a smaller building) is lovely, it is not necessary.

 

Having everyone in the building sign a card of thanks and congratulations is a wonderful idea. People can chip in a minimum suggested amount or more towards a gift. Depending on your super, his interests, and his retirement plans, think watches, fishing or sporting equipement, iPad, gardening supplies, etc. Or simply present him with an always-appreciated cash bonus.

 

Retiring minds want to know,

Ms. Demeanor

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