How do I say no without seeming like a total ass? I still have to work with the guy.
Tough one! On the other hand, even jerks deserve a roof over their heads...
You have three options and none of them involve the gospel truth: (1) You could write a very vanilla letter ("I have known him for x years... He is in x position and at x firm... yadda, yadda..."), (2) You could tell him you stink at writing recommendation letters and ask if he will write it and you sign it, or (3) Tell him you have a personal policy against writing recommendation letters and suggest someone else at work who is higher up the totem pole.
I will email you offline to find out if said complainer is bidding on an apartment in my building,
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