A. Appropriate? No, say our BrickTank experts. Unavoidable? Maybe.
“It is never appropriate for board members to share confidential information with anyone outside the board, even a spouse,” says property manager Dan Wurtzel, who notes that board members may need to be reminded about this.
Real estate lawyer Jeffrey Reich explains that board members have fiduciary obligations, including protecting personal information, that their spouses do not.
Some boards require that each member sign a confidentiality statement if confidentiality becomes a problem.
But property manager Thomas Usztoke says this amounts to formalizing "unenforceable rules of etiquette regarding spousal ‘eavesdropping’ on confidential communications. Such a household dynamic is benign at best and at worst, the source point of open public gossip that typically ends with the director’s service on the board.”
Another property manager who declines to be identified adds, “If you trust your spouse to keep things quiet, who else better to share that confidential information with? Better your spouse than a gossipy bartender or hairdresser – at least you have a chance of it not being leaked. I think Obama has issues with this too.”
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